Dealing with rejection and failure

When trying to accomplish any major goal in life, rejection and obstacles are inevitable steps that every professional has to encounter not once but multiple times in life. The key is to learn from your mistakes and persist through it until you succeed. However, this is easier said than done. The critical differentiators between success and failure is the ingredient of the person, who befalls the same. It is not aptitude that creates the difference but attitude, as has been recognized in numerous highly cited research works (Shao et al. 1988, Jennifer et al. 2006; etc).

I have personally encountered numerous professionals who are actually extremely competent but find it hard to deal with failure and perceived rejection from the social and professional network due to the same.  Counseling helps in more ways than is perceived in making or breaking these otherwise highly competent people.

Success of course is the ultimate souvenir and the only testament to your efforts. However, dealing with rejection is critical to avoid burn-out and maintain self poignant efficacy and confidence to go on. Coping strategies include using emotional or instrumental support; self-distraction; denial; religion; venting; substance use; self-blame; and behavioral disengagement.

Of these, using social support (for emotional, instrumental and terminal goals), denial, venting, behavioral disengagement, and self-blame coping had negative effects on individual satisfaction and ends up in boosting sub-lingual dissonance within the mind. As more and more professionals used these coping strategies in dealing with the day’s most bothersome failure, the less satisfied they felt at the end of the day and subsequently their performance felt the effect of a dissonant mind in the long run. This creates job churn or disengagement from organizational citizenship behavior or even group affiliation.

In contrast, positive reframing (i.e. trying to see things in a more positive light, looking for something constructive feedback from first hand experiences), factual acceptance and humor coping had positive effects on satisfaction. It has been observed that professionals using these coping strategies in dealing with failures, became more satisfied and less stressed they felt at the end of the day (Stoeber et al., 2006). The finding that positive reframing of relatively bitter experiences in the professional sphere was helpful for professionals having extremely high perfectionist goals and long term self-improvement commitment is particularly important. This establishes that even people high in perfectionistic concerns will have a tendency to be dissatisfied no matter what they achieve, are able to experience high levels of satisfaction if they use positive reframing while attempting to cope when dealing with perceived failures. The same also applies for all professionals even if they are somewhat in the “cross the fence” stage where they are yet to taste success majorly.

Do let us know, if this helps you in dealing with stress from fears of failure and rejection.

 

Behold the turtle, he makes progress only when he sticks his neck out.

Bruce Levin gave an excellent insight to what ultimately is a sure shot recipe for progress. Not taking risks in life is a sure shot symbol of stagnation and ultimately death. To be progressive, one needs to take risk and there is absolutely no debate about this. But yes, one should take calculated risks.

So ask yourself this everyday, what do you intend to do with your life? Where do you see yourself in the near future and some time off? Make your decisions accordingly.

Top 15 Quotes from the Management Guru Jack Welch

John Francis “Jack” Welch,  is an American chemical engineer, businessman and author. He was Chairman and CEO of General Electric between 1981 and 2001. Welch’s net worth is estimated at $720 million. Jack Welch is such an authority on the subject that many master of organizational leadership programs put a focus on his principles of management. Following are few of his top rated quotes on management.

  1. Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it to be.
  2. If you pick the right people, and give them the opportunity to spread their wings and put compensation as a carrier behind it you almost don’t have to manage them.
  3. Give me a highly successful unionized industry.
  4. If change is happening on the outside faster than on the inside the end is in sight.
  5. Giving people self-confidence is by far the most important thing that I can do. Because then they will act.
  6. If you don’t have a competitive advantage, don’t compete.
  7. Control your own destiny or someone else will.
  8. Good business leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own the vision, and relentlessly drive it to completion.
  9. An organization’s ability to learn, and translate that learning into action rapidly, is the ultimate competitive advantage.
  10. Number one, cash is king… number two, communicate… number three, buy or bury the competition.
  11. The essence of competitiveness is liberated when we make people believe that what they think and do is important – and then get out of their way while they do it.
  12. The Internet is the Viagra of big business.
  13. If GE’s strategy of investment in China is wrong, it represents a loss of a billion dollars, perhaps a couple of billion dollars. If it is right, it is the future of this company for the next century.
  14. My main job was developing talent. I was a gardener providing water and other nourishment to our top 750 people. Of course, I had to pull out some weeds, too.
  15. Willingness to change is a strength, even if it means plunging part of the company into total confusion for a while.

Do share if you liked these quotes from the Management Guru Jack Welch.

#Quote Sometimes the best deals are the ones you don’t do

This quote by Donald Trump speaks more than just the words. Business success is often about choosing which projects to go for and which to leave, even if they appear attractive. Not always do all firms have the capability to deliver a “waao” project, even if the same is offered to them. The same works on the personal front also. A man needs to recognize his limitations before jumping onto “opportunities”.

The path to success is to take massive, determined action

“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.”- Anthony Robbins

Robbins summed it up in simple language. You need to have the heart to take big decisions, sometimes even risky to taste the sweetness of success. But decisions only become fruitless unless implemented with equally thoughtful implementable plan of action. The confluence of both is necessary for success.

Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing

Hellen Keller sums it all.  Without risks, a business is sure to face stagnation and then ultimately death. Taking risk is crucial for tasting success in your business endeavors. However, what is important to remember that the returns you are expecting from the project(s) is proportional to the risk level.

A business that makes nothing but money is a poor business

Henry Ford never said something more meaningful. A business has more implications on the society and environment in which it functions. Its not only the philanthropic activities which matter but activities like “Go Green” paves the way for a sustainable development and a better future for generations to come.

Understanding what an organizations Corporate Social Responsibility may be, may turn out not just an attempt for brand building in the long run, but a survival strategy, in the changing era of government intervention and policing.

CSR policies today, more than ever function as a built-in, self-regulating mechanism whereby organizations would monitor and ensure its support to law, ethical standards and even international norms or expectations. Consequently, today organizations are embracing responsibility for the impact of its activities on the environment, consumers, employees, communities, stakeholders and all other members of the public sphere, just to ensure a humanitarian face towards the ecology within which they thrive. Furthermore, CSR-focused businesses would proactively promote the public interest  by encouraging community growth and development, and voluntarily eliminating practices that harm the public sphere, regardless of legality. Essentially, CSR is the deliberate inclusion of public interest into corporate decision-making, and the honoring of a triple bottom line: people, planet, profit.

Today, CSR is not just a thing that companies may choose to do, but it is gradually turning out to be strategic inclination of major MNCs getting positioned for a better future. Today it has become a key component while evaluating a brand value and its recall value. Considering this take by the MNCs, can even the smaller and medium sized enterprises neglect whatever CSR is possible, in their disposition?